Be with Me (2005)

Dreadfully Boring

Instead, you get a movie that's enjoyable enough, but leaves you feeling like it could have been much, much more.

It's the kind of movie you'll want to see a second time with someone who hasn't seen it yet, to remember what it was like to watch it for the first time.

One of the most extraordinary films you will see this year. Take that as you want.

Narrative pyrotechnics is not the exclusive domain of screenwriter Charlie Kaufman("Being John Malkovich", "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind"); it just seems that way. Nobody in Hollywood, off-Hollywood, or around the world, pulls off meta- with more lunacy, heart, and panache than the erudite iconoclast who forced the writers' branch of the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences to nominate his doppleganger, an identical twin brother named Donald, for Best Adapted Screenplay, 2002's "Adaptation", a film that "Be With Me" can be favorably compared with. But rather that skewer the blockbuster mentality of contemporary Hollywood movies, in which Kaufman created an alter-ego to purposely sabotage his winsome love story about real-life writer Susan Orlean(played by Meryl Streep) and an orchid thief with inappropriately formulaic screen writing, this gentle film from Singapore goes after something even more elevated. "Be With Me" attempts to be the missing link that sutures the documentary with the filmic tradition of neorealism.An old man grieves over the recent death of his wife; a morbidly obese security guard swoons over an oblivious, and unattainable woman; a teenage lesbian is forsaken by a bi-curious vamp who jilts her for a boy; three linked stories that are interrupted well into "Be With Me" by a seemingly incongruous fourth one, an adaptation of a blind and deaf woman's memoir that plays like non-fiction. Her name is Theresa Chan, who like Orlean(author of "The Orchid Thief"), are installed in a narrative that tells the story of the forthcoming book's creation. While "Adaptation" may seem like the bolder film, "Be With Me" goes ones step further than the Spike Jonze-directed mind bender by having Chan play herself. With very little staging, the documentary within the narrative film(Taiwanese filmmaker Hou Hsiao-hsien used this technique in 1993's "Xi meng ren sheng") records the startling competency of this severely disabled woman who can cook her own meals and teach disabled children like herself to cope, to live. With modest daring, the documentary doesn't exist in a vacuum. Extracts from Chan's memoir on the screen like subtitles, as if silence itself was a foreign language. By not providing a voice-over, the film respects the interior language of the hearing impaired. Chan's subtitles mirror the camera's focus on the text-messaging that substitutes for spoken dialogue between "dumbangel 67" and "sympgirl". The correlation being: technology turns us into virtual handicaps. The two girls can't see or hear each other when they text message or chat online.The man who accompanies Theresa to the market and bring her meals is also the widower's son. After his father shut down the modest grocery store he ran with his late wife, the old man exiled himself into a desensitized world of his own making. The black covering that shrouds the storefront gate looks like a metaphor for his "blindness". He lives with the ghost of his wife, a woman he can't see or hear. To lift his handicap, the son gives the father a Chinese translation of Chan's memoirs. In "Being John Malkovich". Craig Schwartz(John Cusack) discovers a portal that allows people to hack into another man's consciousness. Although there's no on-screen portal in "Be With Me", a similarly divine gateway is suggested by the son's ability to maneuver between both, the fictional and non-fictional diegeses of the film. Neo-realism, the Italian tradition of using real people in real locations, is given a self-reflexivity when the son visits his father, and then the lesbian, who is hospitalized after the security guard averts her attempt at suicide by sheer happenstance. The son instigates an alchemy wherever he goes. When the father reads Theresa's autobiography, the real words of the living and breathing turns this cipher into a real man. A ghost, a fictive story element that's anathemic to neorealism, no longer has a place in the spatial reality of the reconstituted father, transformed by his intertextual son and the text he carries from the real world. The father's corporeality is finalized when he boards the bus to deliver Theresa's food he prepared for her in person."Be With Me", far from being simply an "art" film, is a heart film. It's both metaphysical and emotional. Brilliant!

Just caught Be With Me on DVD. Must say that the slowness of the film caught me slightly off-guard. I have to agree though the film was inspired by Theresa Chan, i don't see much of a linkage as well. I felt that the three stories could have stood quite well on its own if given more screen time.It's not that Chan's story wasn't inspiring. In fact it's too extraordinary. That's why i find it strange why it was placed in this film. I get the idea that her presence motivated someone else but the part-fictional & part-realistic plot just messes up the overall feel quite a bit.The three stories were actually well-written. Imagine two sweet lasses actually being lesbians? Makes u take a second look at good girl pals who go shopping together. Then, there's also the security guard who develops a crush on a beautiful lady out of his league. He's so big & bulky but yet lives a life void of courage. And the story of the uncle is such a soulful reminder that there is everlasting love after all.In any case, congrats to Eric Khoo & his team for the awards & nominations in foreign film festivals!

I literally ran to watch it, expecting a film that will make me cry, or touch my heart.What I found was not heart-rending, but a lame exploitation of 1 strong human character.Interwined between a pair of young lesbians and an obese man.In a setting that is substantially devoid of sound not to mention acting of the most common.It was not entirely BAD, as I have seen worst - and I left the cinema $10 poorer but wiser - that a FILM well advertised is not the same as a FILM WELL-MADE.

Be With Me is essentially a quiet film with minimal dialogue and action, but yet radiates a certain degree of power and influence on the audience throughout the course of the show. Three short stories are interwoven around a real-life docu-drama featuring the indomitable Theresa Chan, who although blind and deaf, displays more strength and hope than any of the other characters in the movie.Did the film make me cry, as it supposedly did to many critics around the world? No it didn't. So you mean the show wasn't touching for me? Wrong. Do we have to cry when something touches the heart? Many times what goes on inside the heart does not translate to what comes out from the eyes. My emotions were stirred and I felt my heart clench at various moments when the characters suffered through the quiet desperation they went through.It was an enjoyable movie, though the ambiance and overall darkness of the film may suggest otherwise. I felt most amazed at what Theresa Chan was capable of accomplishing despite her most unfortunate disabilities. Not just the physical aspects, where she showed us her astonishing ability to take care of herself, but also the mental and spiritual aspects of her life, where she is so strong in the mind and the faith in her God. It would be so easy to blame the heavens and let go of life but yet she displays a remarkable determination to make the fullest out of her existence. Her situation puts the other characters' plights in the shade and render our own complaints with everything around us irrelevant.Be With Me not just provides a silent inspiration to audiences, it also showcases the many facets of local life rarely experienced in a busy world where everything revolves around us at breakneck speed. Take a time out and allow yourself to sit through an hour and a half of peaceful contemplation with what is it that really matters most in our lives.